How to cope with betrayal?

           betrayal is one of the most painful experiences one could have, and it's absolutely not an easy task to cope with it. Especially when it comes from someone whom you love or have affection with. It doesn't only happen in marriages or affairs, but also in friendship and close family relationships and many other things. Let's just define betrayal first, for me, it is an act of disloyalty and treachery by one person or group to another person or group. It leaves a scar, it destroys you inside out and gives you melancholic depression. You keep thinking about how dare they did this to you or how helpless and distressed you are now and why did this happen to you only? You feel more depressed just by thinking about how depressed you. As cited by Mark Manson, you get into a "feedback loop of hell". and trust me, the more you think, the deeper you get into the misery. The more you think, the harder it will be for you to heal it.

How to save yourself from betrayal?

           Let's just dig deeper and find out how we can actually save ourselves from betrayal. That doesn't mean that you won't be betrayed by anyone but betrayal would actually cause lesser pain if you try this method. The best method to feel lesser pain and sorrow from betrayal is to expect less. Yes! you heard it right. Why do we expect so much from everyone? what is the point of expectations? why do we rely upon someone else? why do we expect someone to treat us the right way? why do we expect someone to love us more than anything in this world? why do we expect someone to be loyal to us for the rest of his and your life? why do we expect someone to remember our birthdays and anniversaries? why do we expect someone to not get tired of you? The expectation is the root cause of the pain you feel after betrayal and it is directly proportional to pain. The more you expect, the harder the agony would be.

3 quick ways to deal with betrayal
       
let's assume that you have already been betrayed by the person from whom you expected so much and now you feel depressed and can't get over it. So here are a few quick ways to deal with the aftermath:

1. Share your thoughts

It is very important to let the lava out. It doesn't matter whom you share that with, it could be anyone. Share that with your office's janitor or someone who's sitting beside you in the metro or a complete stranger who has never seen you before and doesn't know you at all. It doesn't matter, just let things out, you will definitely feel lighter and you might make new friends. The more you hide your emotions, the worse the pain would be.

2. Change your priorities

Think broader. The world doesn't revolve around that person, let go of it. start spending time with your family and friends, give them more priority in your life, try to change the direction of your life talk on different topics. Try to change your mindset.

3. Start writing and listen to good music

I have experienced this in my life that music and writing is the best healer. whatever your thoughts are, write them down on a piece of paper, write again and again and as much as you can. Make money out of your thoughts because at that point you start realizing what life is and understand the true colors of it. This betrayal could be the turning point of your life if you want it to be.